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The kids who think it's fun to be cruel to others grow into adults who think it's fun to be cruel to others.

And they don't make friendsโ€”they make victims and accomplices.

"Boys will be boys" is what got us incels, school shooters, big tech, and the current state of politics.

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@leberschnitzel In Sweden people with children get a decent amount of money from the Swedish government for caring their own kid. It is probably part of the social distance making. Compare it to a kid like Loella (in the book "Pappa Pellerin's daughter"), where compassion grew strong mostly related to feeling unique, respected and needed, in calm pure nature.

Forced governmental "care" in the city, made her confidence weak, and introduced her into a bullying girl gang.

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So much this!

I'm not religious, but the Bible does contain bits of wisdom suitable for everyone:

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
โ€” Proverbs 22:6

Or, as the common idiom has it:

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

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Gary Houston

@brouhaha If we are going to get Biblical, there's that story where Elisha went to Bethel, and little children came out and mocked him for being bald. He cursed them in the name of the lord, and two she-bears came out and mauled 42 of them.
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tillian ๐ŸฆŠ ACAB

i think this sentiment, the "boys will be boys" one, kind of assumes these people will somehow outgrow it, as if outsourcing raising a kid to a die roll of fate and random circumstances is somehow preferable to actually putting in the work. but moreover it even normalizes the behaviours that said "boys" do
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David

And itโ€™s on us adults to disabuse those kids of those lies, even while their parents are instilling the same. The works of Dr. Ross Greene and scientifically adjacent authors are a good for how to do that.
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If I had a billion dollars and had already solved homelessness this would be a top priority for me. I feel like a small amount of intervention when kids are in sixth - eighth grade could change an entire generation
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Yes! The reverse, too โ€” adults who think itโ€™s fun to be cruel often raise kids who have cruel tendencies. One thing that frustrates me about โ€œthe kids are alrightโ€ is it elides over the fact that โ€œthe kidsโ€ mean โ€œkids of people who share my valuesโ€, while simultaneously ignoring that โ€œthe othersโ€ have kids too who likely share their beliefs. (It also subtly lets adults off the hook for improving the world by implying โ€œif we just wait, things will naturally get betterโ€.)
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lovely_Natur+Kultur

Well, that is one part of the truth.
There are also some who really were victims themselves as a child.
So please do not judge too quickly.
This TED talk says more than I could...
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I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

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US politics, conservatives, mass shooters

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sortius

honestly, it's a constant battle to keep my son from internalising other boys' behaviours and words. I can see where they come from in the other kids, and I have to explain that fitting in is not an excuse for being cruel or hurtful

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Sure! I actually got plenty posted both on Friendica and on Pixelfed and Mastodon already as well. (repost because the original got screwed up when I tried to add alt text, plus I added some more art as well)
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