Why must people constantly be reminded to love and/or to take care of themselves? Isn't that just a natural part of living? If you're tired, sleep. If you're hungry, eat. If you find something that you like and can afford it, buy it. If you want to relax, do so. Conversely, if you're unhappy, get out of that situation, or at least work toward doing so in the near future. This is all common sense.