If you see something, say something! Call them out and make sure they hear you!
- "Hey! I like your shoes!"
- "Thank you for opening that jar for me!"
- "I'm glad you're here!"
- "Do you need a hug??"
- "The world is better because I know you're in it!"
- "Your hair looks great!"
- "Daamn! Have you been working out?"
- "I hope you have a lovely day!"
You never know which act of kindness will make all the difference to someone, so take every opportunity to be kind. Your kind words today may be why they're still around tomorrow.
Also, it's a great way to make friends.
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Jef Poskanzer
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I see lovely chomnky shoes all the time but it seems like it would be creepy for an older guy to comment on a young woman's clothing. Even shoes.
Sometimes I do compliment a funny t-shirt, they invite commentary.
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Jef Poskanzer • • •@jef good rules of thumb when complimenting anyone, but especially femme-folx, are to:
1. compliment choices, not inherent qualities.
2. don't compliment sexualized things.
3. only compliment when they have an easy out.
4. compliments are gifts, not transactions.
5. compliment, then fuck off. They'll stop you if they want to continue the interaction.
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Emily Vale, Gendermancer
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •@Willow this is perfect, including the tone. "Compliment then fuck off" is so great. People can trust that you mean it if you don't default to sticking around to reap the appreciation.
(Edit: how the hell did I get the k at the end? 😂)
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fritzoids
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •@jef
So, on a train or on a bus: Wait until it's your stop. Let the doors open. Say "Great shoes!" or similar. Get off the train / bus.
Same for elevator.
Compliment just as you are leaving.
(and because some people did not get the memo: do not compliment someone from inside your car. Especially if they are on foot.)
The Orange Theme
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Unknown parent • • •Fritz Adalis
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •If someone compliments my shoes then I'm going to wear only those shoes forever.
ケレムさん 🏴☠️ イラスト
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Seth Galitzer
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Big Ben
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I once drove by a construction worker who appeared to be a woman. She was holding the “slow” sign and dancing and appeared to be having a good time with it.
I had my windows rolled down and wanted to cheer her on as I drove by. What came out was “whoooooooo!!”
The immediate moment after I was filled with regret because I realized I just cat-called her
Tamtam
Unknown parent • • •It's a great hedge against potential depression. You can't argue with love. It's just there. The healthiest thing in the world.
Lou 🏳️⚧️
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in reply to Michael • • •Insecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥
in reply to Michael • • •@seven_708
When you share basic compliments like "amazing shoes/hair" with no expectation and from a safe distance (avoiding perception of attempting physical contact or physical intimidation), most people will appreciate hearing that
Anyone who doesn't either isn't a good person to talk to or isn't in a good place at that time, or maybe they have some fears and trauma — but that's okay. Sometimes getting a response out of fear doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but that someone else needs to see healthy communication and consent to help them recognize and accept relative safety when it exists.
Lydia Schoch
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Kelcie (She/They)
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Unknown parent • • •"I love your pants"
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"You too?"
StarkRG
in reply to EndlessMason • • •@EndlessMason @sillyCoelophysis @Willow @jef
Acceptable responses to "I like your pants":
"Thanks! They have pockets."
"Thanks, I got them at a thrift shop."
Unacceptable responses:
"Thanks! I bet a homeless man $20 that he couldn't do a lap around the park without pants and ran off while he was halfway around."
nellie-m
in reply to Tamtam • • •@Tamtam
Someone I met in front of a supermarket during a holiday, and had a brief but really nice conversation with, finally gave me a big smile and a hug saying “do enjoy yourself today”.
I took that instruction with me, and tried to follow it, and I think of it often. This happened during a really difficult time in my life, and it was like a pivotal moment of healing for me. Literally life-changing.
When I read an encouragement like “don’t underestimate the power of kindness” this is where my mind goes: that huge smile, that moment of appreciation, that instruction to enjoy just this one precious day today - and then another one, and another one.
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Bytebro 🇬🇧 🇺🇦 🌈
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in reply to Jules she/her • • •Yup 😀 😀
I get very frequent compliments: "NICE HAT!!!" (my helmet w/ reindeer) and "YOU'RE A ROCK STAR!!!"
Yes, I usually say "thank you!!!" (When they holler "I LOVE YOU!!! Parkland! College!!" (where I tutor math) I was too gobsmacked, esp. since I'd just ducked from traffic lane to bike lane and rather expected a different invective).
Infrapink (he/his/him)
Unknown parent • • •@Lizette603_23 @jef
Vampires?
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B'ad Samurai
Unknown parent • • •@antijingoist
💜 The world needs more Fedi irl
@alice
Ben Rush
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Unknown parent • • •Love that! Is that a CH/Frelard movement or happenstance? I trade more Signal than Fedi atm
@antijingoist
Joe W
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Unknown parent • • •The Sleight Doctor 🃏🍉
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Caveat for cishet men: make sure you've enough rapport first before complimenting a woman you hardly know, even if it's sincere and well-meant. It can too easily come across as a creepy come-on.
*You* may be a genuine and decent fella, but it's quite entitled to expect a woman to have that as her default assumption about you. 🙏🏼
elena 👩💻
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Like so many other "taken for granted" social/emotional stuff:
Both giving and receiving compliments are skills that needs to be learned and worked on.
They're skill mature, successful adults and leaders have and work on.
NB: know how to take a compliment too: Say thank you, say you were working on that or you took extra effort, that you're grateful. See the other person back.
Let's make it all better together through empathy, kindness and the many forms of love and respect.
Tobias 🌒🌕🌘
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