Recently, I have shared a few posts about dealing with life. How I felt fake at times, how I struggled to keep going by doing the daily routine and chores, how I just feel like I am stumbling through life. And I guess, this is a follow up to those posts.
I share a lot online. Maybe too much. But honestly, I don’t really care… I struggle with social interactions. I don’t have that many friends and most live further away, so I don’t see them that often. And some live too far away and I doubt that I will ever meet them. So my social interactions in real life, as they say, are rather limited. And I guess I am using the social media bits to feel some sort of connection.
I occasionally chat with friends online, but I am often scared that I will be a bother to them, so often I will wait for them to reach out to me. And I guess that doesn’t make me the best friend there is… 😔
So I write. I write on this blog. I write on Mastodon. I share snaps on Pixelfed. I try to make connections and be social and have conversations. But I feel like I am always saying the same, sharing the same, and I just feel like I am this big, fat bore… I know, I am my own worst critic…
I share things about my (daily) life. I write about my struggles, not just with health or money. I write about gadgets, gaming, TV series. But lately, I feel like I hit this vicious circle, where I am stuck in this pattern of doing the same thing over and over, and that includes my writing here.
The interaction I don’t have with folks offline, I try to achieve by sharing loads online. It’s not that I want to gather all the likes or anything like that… I just need a way to feel like I matter. If that makes sense 🤔… I need to believe that my daily (struggles through) life matters somehow…
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As I recently shared, some days I feel fake, like it doesn’t really matter what I do, like no one would care anyway… I don’t need a “pity party”, but I just need to feel like it’s worth all of it. Even when it feels very mundane… 😔
Being single isn’t all bad. You get to live your life your own way. Which can be a great feeling of freedom. Sure, it has downsides. Enough of them, in different levels. But one thing I struggle with at times, is not having someone to just chat with. So, instead of chatting, here I am, typing my fingers off…
I have friends to chat with. I try to meet up with the ones that live near enough when they can and want to. But it it’s been a while since the last chat, I sometimes struggle to pick up the conversation again. I know I can just text most of them, but somehow, or just feels hard to do. But when they text me, I find it a lot easier to just reply…
Which reminds me that I should text sine folks later today… 🫣 (as I write this…).
But yeah, blogging or sharing on Fedi is a lot easier than texting folks when I feel I may be bothering them… A blog or Toot is less direct than a message that goes directly to the friend. And I know that many of my friends are OK with me texting when I can. I know they have their phones on DND (do not disturb) when they’re sleeping or working. But I still feel weird when I text them during the night, as part of me feels I should respect their sleep…. 🤔
So trying to live online through blogs, toots, sharing snaps and visa, sharing my life so I feel a wee bit connected to others through that. If that makes sense… 🤔 Sometimes it can be hard when it’s just you and your dog, and no one to chill out on the couch with, to share the daily bits…
Anywhoooo… That’s a reason why I enjoy blogging so much. Also cause it helps to clear my mind…
To be continued…. As I’ll keep writing…
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in reply to ghostmeet • • •recently i've also tried getting in more exercise, i do commute by cycling nowadays, but tbh i haven't noticed a difference. but it's always good to do more exercise ❤️
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in reply to LinuxJava7 • • •I use the same strategies medicated as I did before, but I'm more reliable now.
Bullet journalling to not forget what needed done, modified pomodoro timer (shorter time blocks for both focus and break) to create artificial deadlines, body doubling whenever possible or listening to audiobooks and podcasts to distract my brain while doing boring tasks. Caffeine never helped me, but prepping fruit and veg to snack on helped more than biscuits.
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in reply to Duck Marshall 🚲 • • •i think that's what i've been doing for the most part, just less consistently and less often, but I think i definitely need to create some artificial deadlines for myself when doing work
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in reply to LinuxJava7 • • •I have to have one big cup of coffee in the morning to counter brain fog. Weirdly, if that doesn't work, I eat cheese – strong cheddar. I know that doesn't make sense and your milage will almost certainly vary.
If someone asks me to do a thing I do it right then. If I wait I'll forget.
I avoid making long lists of things I need to do because they are overwhelming, but I do make a small "things to aim for today" list.
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in reply to Fish Id Wardrobe ⁂ • • •i might actually give that a go, i need to take vitamins anyway so i think i have some
thanks ❤️
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from what i can tell, caffeine doesn't affect me, but I hardly drink it so it's not conclusive
i haven't tried eating cheddar but I personally hate the taste of it so it probably won't work 😅
i definitely do have the same issue of forgetting stuff instantly, so i keep a journal to write stuff down with a todo list, but often i don't manage to complete much on it, it's more like a list of things i wanna do eventually short-term
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For Pete's Sake 🏴 🏳️🌈
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For Pete's Sake 🏴 🏳️🌈
in reply to For Pete's Sake 🏴 🏳️🌈 • • •I never finished that post. I submitted in error and then was out for rest of day 😀
However I just wanted to add while in Florence and waiting for my wife (quite a wait) I availed myself of several (about 4) of their delicious Italian double espressos. While a bit wired initially when my wife returned she commented on how much more relaxed I was later and able to deal with the noise and crowds better.
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in reply to LinuxJava7 • • •I've tried a bunch of supplements and the 3 I can recommend the most are l-tyrosin without caffein, rhodiola rosea with less caffein than usual and huperzine a(there seems to be a shortage at the moment).
Rhodiola rosea and huperzine a both take a few days to work properly and help with focus and memory.
Huperzine a can make you feel mentally exhausted for the first few days, but starting with a lower dose helps with that.
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